Jane Doe No More: The fight against rape

Robert, Bella Vista, Arkansas — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 04:53:25 GMT

I support the lady. This is real guts. Wow. Retired GI here and rape victims are also PTSD victims and their lives are changed. They do need support. There is no stigma here in my head, they were hurt by evil. I hope this works. Real guts. Wow.

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Pete Farris, St. Michaels, MD — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 10:07:19 GMT

I'm glad to see the support forming. Unfortunately the police, etc., are necessary because of the seriousness of the charge for the alleged rapist. Just as more than one woman has been a victim of the system, more than one man has had a life ruined by a false charge. Godspeed.

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Sandra Gabriele Providence RI — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 13:20:43 GMT

Thank you for your site

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sandi RI — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 13:32:57 GMT

great site keep it up for all to see

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margaret powell, Washington DC — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 13:40:20 GMT

My identity was protected in the media during my rape trial until charges were dropped for lack of evidence, and the rapist was celebrated as a victim of false accusations. Within an hour, The district attorney's office announced my name, news vans were on my lawn and a month later there was a dateline NBC interview about the situation--only I was being treated as a liar. I was a rape victim. He was a rapist, not a victim of false accusations. I am a survivor of rape by an elementary school teacher, and for as awful as the public situation was at the time, being open with my rape has been a big relief to me. Friends and family all know and there is a huge sense of relief and relaxation in that. They don't see me any differently, I've been able to move on with my life. We shouldn't be ashamed to tell our names. We shouldn't hide in shadows or have our voices changed in interviews. We should be proud of our survival.

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LINDA HIGHLAND SPRINGS, VA — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 14:49:53 GMT

AS A PERSON THAT HAS BEEN RAPED, I COULDN'T AGREE MORE ABOUT THE STIGMA INVOLVED WITH RAPE.ALTHOUGH MINE OCCURRED YEARS AGO IT STILL HAUNTS ME TO THIS DAY.I KNOW IT WAS NOT MY FAULT I HAVE FELT RESPONSIBLE FOR THE INCIDENT...HOPEFULL WOMEN TODAY WILL BE ABLE TO POINT THEIR FINGERS AT THE RAPIST AND FEEL PROUD THAT THEY'RE DOING THE RIGHT THING...PERHAPS THEY WILL TAKE A CRIMINAL OFF THE STREET AND NOT HURT SOMEONE ELSE..

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Lorraina Nyanza, Darmstadt, Germany — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 15:17:52 GMT

I found this story timely and personally encouraging in light of the fact that I was sexually assaulted by a Department of the Defense Civilian Employee in the Darmstadt (Army) military community in late 2005 and continue to work in the same building with this predator who, in the aftermath of his assault on me, has gone to great lengths to demean my character as well as sexually harass scores of other women in this community. In an attempt to gain some level of closure,I,too, took an opportunity to write a letter to the editor of the European-based Stars and Stripes Newspaper (published 24 Apr 2006). I have amassed credible documentary and other prooof that there is a sexual predator in this community, yet, despite this, he is allowed to reign free to this day!! I am actively seeking legal representation in the hopes of pursuing this matter further in a court of law. Your article speaks to the importance of victim's using their voice to empower themselves as well as others. Thank You.

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kathy, sarasota, florida — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 17:43:40 GMT

I was raped in the late 1970's. I can still recall every minute of the attack. They never caught the person that did the crime and with alot of counseling I have been able to move forward. The only aftermath I still have is going into my house when it is completely dark. I can sleep in the dark but walking into a dark house I still take a deep breath. I thank God that when I was attacked my children were not at home. My regret is that people feel the victim had to have done something to cause such a violent act. Being the victim my anger is that a person took from me something that was not given but taken. It's stealing, robbery, and the majority of the victims never feel 100% safe again!!!!!

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Marty Porter — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 18:53:17 GMT

After the Duke LaCrosse debacle, perhaps we shouldn't name the male defendants either. The "fairness" pendulum is weighted far in favor of the accusor in these instance!

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Em K — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 19:07:57 GMT

This piece could have also addressed the Associated Press' and other news' outlets' policies of not publishing the names of (adult) victims of rape. They publish the names of mugging, stabbing and beating crimes. Personally, I don't think any victim's name should be published because not everyone wants a public record of their painful experience, but if the policy is to report victims of "non-sexual crimes," it should be consistent enough to report the names of sex crime victims who are not minors. The key here is "crime." Rapists are criminals, with criminal minds and mentalities; their weapon happens to be that which is permanently attached to them, and , as such, may give them far more opportunity for crime than the average gun-toting mugger. Mainstream media: stop perpetuating the cloak of shame that surrounds rape victims.

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sandi Gabriele — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 20:03:20 GMT

Thank you for this site please circulate for every one ! Women and Men RI

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Gina Reno, Nevada — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 20:08:23 GMT

I will no longer be a jane doe either.

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Karen Raymond Eastport MI — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 21:02:51 GMT

Good for her! We need a lot more people with her courage! Then, the world would be a lot better place.

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Staci Warner Amite, LA — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 22:00:42 GMT

I am proud of you having the strength and courage to go forward after such an ordeal. The only shame from a rape should be on the shoulders of the rapist! Perhaps a website should come about called "He(with a picture or pictures of him posted with his name) raped me"

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Elise Jones, Candler, NC — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 23:55:55 GMT

The worst thing about being a survivor of rape is the shame we heap on ourselves. The guilt of somehow not doing something more to keep from being a victim in the first place. The truth is- if I survived then I did the right thing. It took me the better part of 10 years to journey from victim to survivor. I still fight the residual effects of post-traumatic stress particualrly on the anniversary and it has been 23 years now. We do need to take off the mask, forget the shame and place it where it belongs- with the rapist. Thank you for this article.

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Meredith French, Baton Rouge, LA — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 00:56:32 GMT

I am a rape survivor. I was told by police that there was nothing they could do since I decided to wait more than 72 hours to report the crime. There was no evidence, and although I could press charges, the reality was, that I would more than likely not win in court and that my pain would be greater then than it already is. Who's to say that would be the case, now already five years down the road, I wonder, would I have felt worse or is what I am feeling now, hopeless for not even trying, worse? I think this article is wonderful. It gives everyone an option. Whether to be silent which is justifiable, or to speak out, which is also justifiable. You decide, for once, instead of everyone deciding for you.

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Jane Doe 992, Huntington Beach CA — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 03:36:08 GMT

Jane Doe 992 says hooray! For years I have been stunned that other women do not even have rape on their radar screen. Hello, when you are in a room with 30 women, the odds are that 2 of them have been raped. Think about it. Now think about your daughter (or the monster you may be raising as a son).

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Vicki Coheley, Centre, AL — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 06:27:47 GMT

I give prayers of thanks for women like Donna Palomba. I am a rape victim who never felt strong enough to go public and prosecute my attacker. From prior painful experience with the justice system, I believed I would be punished and shamed, rather than receive any justice. Thus, without closure or justice, I continue to feel like a victim of both my attacker and the flawed justice system of the 1980's. The changes I see unfolding, led by women like Donna, give me hope for justice and closure to other rape victims. Go, Donna! Go, Jane Doe No More!

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Tina I Poirier — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 11:59:05 GMT

Donna,I believe you are doing a great service to woman all over the world.You were a victim of injustice in more ways than one. A woman who has been victimized suffers .She deserves support and praise for coming forward to stop these perverts from hurting others. I'm truely grateful.You are a hero.Thank you

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Stanton from Ohio — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 12:56:58 GMT

I do fill her pain,but the word rape,can change a females life for ever!Not only fiscal abuse but mentally it makes you lose the person you really love , because if he finds out then there is a chance he will not want you !Or you want him , but can not stand to be touched anymore. and all the medical talk and meds will not change a thing.

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Rodney Lemley — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 13:28:31 GMT

I can understand this. I am a father of a little 9 year old girl who was molested and raped and a real early age. She is going to come out this summer with a project she has begun and is going to put a face for all people to see just how young our children are that are being molested, raped, abducted, and killed. I understand how society treats victims, it gives no value to there pain and suffering. It gives more credibility to the offenders/

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knitaddict Nashville, TN — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 13:41:40 GMT

I think that this is a wonderful thing. I never even went to the cops after my rape...I REGRET IT EVERYDAY. What tremendous work this woman is doing...this takes a lot of courage.

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Fred Vogt — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 14:03:50 GMT

Donna Palomba is to be applauded. I am the author of See Sally Kick Ass: A Woman's Guide to Personal Safety and recently spoke at University of Missouri at Rolla on the topic of Preventing Sexual Assault. The statistics indicate between 20 & 25% of college women are raped or there is an attempt to rape them. Only about 5% of those attacks are actually reported due to shame, etc. I believe that if every attack was reported and prosecuted, the number of assaults on campus would decrease dramatically. Sexual assaults on campus are primarily date rape, but rape is rape! Society should place no stigma on rape survivors, rather should be supportive to do whatever it takes to get the rapist put away.

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Ann Tillotson, Texarkana, Arkansas — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 14:34:19 GMT

i personally have never been raped but i can imagine the fear you go through. i was abused and manipulated by my first husband for years. i did get help that i needed and it is real important to do that. i commend you for seeing that other rape victims get help. the judicial system can be a nightmare in itself. here is hope that you reach out to many to stop the fear in other victims. god bless you.

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Kimberly, San Diego, California — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 16:39:49 GMT

It's long past time for women to stop hiding in the shadows of victim-hood, leftover attitudes of "she asked for it" now having been cleared away. Especially in the crime of date rape, when the attacker is known by name, women no longer should accept the intimidation that the hospital exam and questioning by police will only further humiliate her. If we are ever going to get the fairness that "equality" offers, and the justice due to us when we are criminally attacked, we are going to have to keep demanding it.

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alliiohno kinbuch, massachussets, boston — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 18:22:56 GMT

that is sad how people blame themselves for what happened to them

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B. Sue Gaiser, LR,Ark. — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 23:26:31 GMT

having been raped five times in my life,I have sometimes called the police,others not. The times have changed, thank God...and I have only now really started realizing how much those events have shaped and challanged my life...Ms. Polomba is indeed a brave and strong woman...the saying is, "when the student is ready, the teacher arrives", thank you for writing this article...to no longer feel a victim is a wonderful place to be. again, thank you. bsu

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Jane Doe, Somewhere, Europe — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 23:37:34 GMT

Huh? Shouldn't the RAPISTS be the ones whose faces are plastered all over place?

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EJ Potter, Boston, Mass. — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 01:12:44 GMT

While I respect Donna's courageous act of reclaiming herself and her life by denouncing her identity as Jane Doe, I feel that it may put undo pressure on other woman who just might not be capable of such a stance. Some women do not need such a traumatic event following throughout their lives, something that would inevitably happen in the age of habitual "googling" and the like. Like I said, I commend Donna Palomba in her efforts to achieve her own version of closure, it is not for every woman. And for those women who wish to maintain their annonymity, it does not make them any less of a victim nor does it mean that they are not facing their own trauma and subsequent closure. Strength comes in various forms, and sometimes it is best to remain in private.

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Wendy, Lodi, CA — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 01:27:41 GMT

I applaud survivors doing anything they can to find relief from the hurt, shame and fear that lingers after a rape. After being victimized once as a child and again in my 20's, I struggled with how to handle disclosure. If I didn't mention it, did it mean I was ashamed? What was my goal if I did bring it up? Did I want sympathy or for someone to share my outrage or... what? For years I fell on the side of sharing this part of my history like any other part of my past. But in a strange way, I had a feeling that doing so kept the hurt fresh. For me, peace came after I stopped holding on to "rape victim/survivor" as part of my identity. I'd never deny that it happened... but not picking at that old wound has really helped me heal.

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denise grego, max meadows, va — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 01:36:52 GMT

very good message and hope all rape victims can get help by this and give donna all the credit in the world. good luck in everything you do donna. you deserve it.

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Roger Dayton,Ohio 45403 — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 05:55:38 GMT

She is a brave woman with care in her heart to tell the world not to be ashame of what has happen to her but letting others know that it is time to catch this guy enought is enought.She makes me proud to see her try to set the story straight terror against woman happens everyday just some do not tell.

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C. Anderson — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 10:31:36 GMT

Go "Jane"! It makes me angry to know that when women have been violated and abused, that they should also be ashamed. That shame is misplaced.

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Roni — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 14:15:32 GMT

Good for her. I hope she was able to see her attacker behind bars. I will be watching this story.

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Joyce Gallacher Bend Or — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 15:11:22 GMT

I want to encourage Donna as a women who has also been thru the same experience but I was able to go to court it was trial by jury and the sentenced him to 4 yrs. But, the process was aweful as I had to take a lie detector test and was treated as the preditor instead of the victim. Keep up the great work and God knows the truth and I am sorry for the fact that the Police who are suppose to protect us sometimes make great human errors. But Almighty God knows the true and I commend you for your courage and again encourage you to continue.

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Stephanie Ritchie Cumberland Maryland — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 15:13:05 GMT

I was a domestic violence and sexual assault counselor for 7 years and I firmly believe that the offenders not the victims need to be the ones who should hide!

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Theo Stickle — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 15:27:03 GMT

I agree that no woman, or child for that matter, should feel any shame or guilt for being a victim of rape. The demented individual, the rapist, is the one who is guilty and shuold be punished no matter who they are...

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Leonard in Central Texas — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 17:41:06 GMT

Donna Palombo has my sympathy. Rape should never occur and if it does there should be just punishment. However the trouble with the Jane Doe Shield is it lets such unfortunate incidents come about as the Duke Rape Case and the Kobe Bryant Incident. I do not like to think of any female being scared to report a rape because of the adversities caused her if her name is used. At the same time something must be done to avoid future incidents such as the Duke Rape Case and the Kobe Bryant Incident.

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vickie alandt, traverse city, michigan — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 18:05:27 GMT

you go girl!!!! what can i do?

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Fred in Coastal Alabama — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 19:13:59 GMT

My heart goes out to Ms. Palombo and any other victims of sexually-based crimes. While I have not known victims of rape, I have known victims of child abuse, and the scars from that last for the rest of their lives. My concern, however, is how do we as a society strike a balance between the rights of the victims and the rights of the accused? Also, in the case of false accusations, what happens to those who are victimized by the justice system? Of course, I'm talking about the Duke lacrosse case, where three young men not only had to prove their lack of guilt, but had to prove their actual innocence. But I'm not just talking about that. I'm talking about people like them, but are too poor to mount that kind of defense and end up spending years in prison for crimes they did not commit. So, while I honor and respect Ms. Palombo's courage, I am concerned about the welfare of her and all types of innocent victims.

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John Doe — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 22:20:09 GMT

How about the male victims of sexual assault. 1 in 4 women are raped by the age of 25, but 1 in 7 boys are raped by the age of 25. Why is it ONLY women who are nameless, faceless victims. I am a man, and a male survivor of repeated childhood sexual assault. (And with a boy it is called Sodomy.) Maybe you should explain to my wife or my son why their daddy's name is published with the details of these horrible things from my purpotrator's trial, and my testimony to convict him. Please remember that women are only half of society, and that the sun doesn't allways shine on the other side of that fence. Women fought for equality, BUT will not give it when it comes to victimization, victim rights, or the rest of our lives. Just think about it ... do you know seven men ... if you say yes, then you know one male survivor of sexual assault as well.

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Scared To Death Literally — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 23:02:08 GMT

I was raped last may by a then 15yr old monster at knife point in my own home with my husband right downstairs. This kid told me that if I yelled he would kill me, my precious daughter, and husband. He told me he would tie me daughter to a tree rape her slice her neck from ear to ear, & I would never find her. When my chance came finally to tell some one it was nearly a month or so later and I was arrested for making a FALSE REPORT to the police and having sex w/ a minor. My police dept. didn't want to hear what happened to me. This kid that did this to me was arrested earlier for a robbery, drug charges, car theft, etc.& the police turned a blind eye to me. What is wrong with our police departments today? I was, and still am a victim of an awful, awful, crime, and I am the criminal?

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Jane Doe, US — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 23:16:45 GMT

I'm watching the NBC program now and am thankful to hear Donna speak so openly about her horrible experience. While visiting another country last year, I was drugged and sexually assaulted for several hours by two guys. I thought time would heal me as the memory grew weaker. Yeah, right. So it's comforting to hear others speak about the lingering effects of rape and sexual assault, and to realize that recovery is indeed possible.

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Denise Jasenosky South St Paul Minnesota — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 00:17:27 GMT

WOW what a tragedy to have happen to be assulted not once but twice Donna you show tru courage and real guts THANKYOU...You show me that persistance can pay off!! I actually cried while watching not for me, but for you and your husband he also showed courage we hear about things all the time where the victim is not believed and then revictimized AGAIN! Sometimes shunned in society as well and yes...it does brake your heart..AGAIN THANKYOU FOR YOUR PERSISTANCE!!AND ALWAYS GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!! Denise Jasenosky

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Sherry De Sousa, Whiting, Indiana — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 00:24:37 GMT

Donna you are so so strong!!! We went thru the exact senario with the police dept. in the town we lived min after our daughter was killed in a car crash. Tapes with his statement were erased, police reports were altered and much much more. But we could not find anyone in that town to help us fight the dept. And we were numb with grief. It is 7 years now and the pain of the unjustice is stornger than ever especially when we hear stories like yours.

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jennifer halleib, grass valley,ca. — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 00:27:48 GMT

congratulations on Jane Doe No More. I'm thrilled that the issue of rape is coming out from under the rug. i myself am a 21 year old female and the first woman of my family to actually speak out about sex abuse. previously, generations before me allowed such devastating crimes to go unpunished, and except for myself, still do. i now suffer from ptsd and will live with the knowledge of my attack daily.the local courts didn't help much, and i actually ended up losing my family at ten while he recieved little more than a slap on the wrist, but hey- my pholosophy is what doesn't kill us makes us stronger, right? i hope to be an example for my mother and sisters to stand up for themselves. you go girl!

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l. gann — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 00:48:29 GMT

my friend awoke to a rapist with a knife at her throat last may her 2 yr old daughter was in the bed with her and witnessed everything the police were very cruel to her and her husband because they did not believe her they thought she was having an affair and her daughter woke so she called the police and said she was raped so her husand would not find out they separated her from her husband and told him that his wife was lying that there was no way things could have happened the way she said the were not interested in any investigating as it turnrd out she had been raped by the man that killed a student in south carolina and later dubed the bikin strangler when he was aressted for this murder he confessed to my friends rape i wish for this not to be posted publicly

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Robert Franz, Victoria,Texas — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 00:55:16 GMT

how can the waterbury pd be so biased in a severe charge as rape? my heart goes out to Donna and her family to come forward .

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Norma, Tulsa, Oklahoma — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:04:09 GMT

One of the wonderful things about this story was that her husband stood by her....I have heard that often times this does not happen.

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Connie Reder, West Hartford, CT — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:07:12 GMT

As a Connecticut resident who had heard about this case over the years, I was so gratified to see this program and the result of the hard and honest detective work that resulted in its resolution. My question is: What about the Waterbury Police Dept.'s Moran brothers? Why were they allowed to ride off into the sunset after what was hardly "negligence" on their part, but rather malfeasance, intimidation, cover-up, destruction of evidence, etc? And where is this alleged "informant" who first planted the seed of doubt about Donna Palomba's credibilty? I would really like to see a follow-up on this aspect of the case.

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Vanessa Somerville, Marine, IL — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:09:23 GMT

I too, am a former rape victim who saw her abductor and attacker escape from the grasp of the criminal justice system. Donna, you serve as inspiration for all who are victims of devastating crimes.

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Ed Lyons Raleigh, NC — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:12:17 GMT

There are many heros in this story, but certainly the personal integrity of the Police Chief and his attitude to follow his intuition in the case is phenomenal. Donna and John are special people indeed. The statute of limitations for sexual offenses should be removed and sexual offense cases should be open until they are solved. Period.

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Jeannie, Ohio — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:14:46 GMT

I didn't have the courage to come forward when I was raped many years ago. The world just didn't look at it the same way then and I was just a kid...scared for my life and nowhere to turn. I am SOOOO happy to see you taking this stand and making women realize that they do NOT have to feel shame or hide any longer! Thank you!!! :)

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mike snickers — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:14:50 GMT

I feel for the lady, and what she went through was atrocious. Unfortunately, Sara James is the worst correspondent I've ever seen and she repeated her self over and over again. This story could've been wrapped up easily in about 5 minutes. The way this story was presented is a disgrace to journalism and broadcasting as a whole. I have wasted an hour of my life, and all i wanted to see was whether or not the rapist was found and justice was served to Donna. I will never watch Dateline ever again. NBC needs to fire Sara James asap. Peace Yo.

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Teresa Currey, Raeford, NC — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:15:16 GMT

Glad you were strong enough to get thru your ordeal and tell victims that it is not their fault. It is important to empower them and support them. Maybe advocates need to look at taking a DNA sample at birth and creating a National DataBase??? God Bless you and your family!

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Denise, bahamas — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:15:29 GMT

This story is a great encouragement. What amazes me is the level of support Donna received from her husband. I am sure his support make a world of difference. It would be great if he could add his views on how to survive such a tragic occurance because usually a person's marriage [and life] falls apart after such an act.

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John in, Mancelona MI — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:22:11 GMT

I am thrilled that her husband had the courage to speak out....My wife was Raped by a Stalker who had our whole community believing that it was an affair, BUT I believed her....unfortunatly she never contacted the police. He is walking around free, she is seeking counciling through a Womens Resourse Center and I am going crazy living with the rumors in our small town. It was so awesome to hear the Male side of this...I hope that she (Donna) can help the males in these cases too. It was good to hear her husband say "i wanted to kill him" because I felt that way too, and I trusted nobody. BUT I also know that, this would solve nothing and hurt more of my family and friends than what it is worth! I am GLAD they both had the courage to stand up and speak out! AMAZING and GOD BLESS BOTH John and Donna

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Mike Gimmello, Waterbury, CT — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:22:17 GMT

God Bless you and your family! You are an amazing woman and i really hope this story and your organization will help people who are victims of sexual assault to come forward and get the low life scum who did it to them. Good for you and I hope all the businesses in Waterbury get involved to help your organization, I know mine will.

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Dawn luddy Watertown CT — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:23:20 GMT

Donna it is so wonderful that you have the courage to come forward. If every rape victim came forward and put a human face on rape I belive we would be amzed at the fact the we would probaly come to find out that we know victims and are not even aware that they are victims.I also have to commend the 21 year old at ABC that had the strength to come forward and report the assualt that uncovered what a decitful man John Regan truely was and is. Horray that the High school student had the strenght and courage to fight off the attempted abduction.

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Linda — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:25:42 GMT

I have no time to respond now, and this is a fast responce, but I would like for someone to listen to me and investigate a long-a-go and long-term situations related to concerns about a particular and influencial male's, sexual behavior. And much more. It includes a well thought about, by family, investigators and others. the murder of someone. I do need to go now, but your story revived my courage. I need direction. If possible, plese reply. L.

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Hank Phelps, East Haven,Ct — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:26:59 GMT

My Heart goes out to Donna and her husband! I watched the TV program Sunday Night.I was so releaved that they finally caught that MONSTER! I think That a few members of the Waterbury police knew back then who the Monster was but, being friends with him...kept it Hush...Hush...just my thoughts! God bless you Donna, and John...hang in there!

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a victim no more — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:27:02 GMT

At age 19, I was robbed, sexually assaulted, and attacked with a knife by a total stranger, while walking home from a friend's house. The criminal was never found. Even though this occurred almost 40 years ago, in 1969, I will never forget that horrifying incident. Equally horrifying and humiliating as the rape itself was the nonchalant, callous treatment by the police and the ER doctors in attendance at the hospital I was taken to. I was constantly badgered as to "whether or not I was a virgin," and "was I sure it wasn't my boyfriend" who had dragged me into an empty backyard in the dead of night? In the end *I* was the one who was made to feel like the perpretrator....as if being attacked and violated was all my fault. The years pass, healing occurs, but you never forget. I am outraged everytime I hear or read about accusatory attitudes toward a rape victim. I'm thankful for this lady and work she is doing. God Bless her!!

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debra granger, charlotte, north carolina — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:28:18 GMT

I FEEL YOUR PAIN; I WAS NOT BELIEVED EITHER. THANK GOD FOR SUPPORTIVE HUSBANDS AND FAMILY. I WOULD LOVE TO HELP; TELL ME WHAT TO DO!! DEBRA GRANGER, MATTHEWS, NORTH CAROLINA

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Nick , Ottawa — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:35:08 GMT

I've just finished watching tonight's story on Jane Doe and The Man Behind the Mask. I found the story intriguing, obviously, since I watched it through to the end. However, I doubt I will ever watch Dateline again. Between the plethora of obnoxious commercials and your tiresome technique of reviewing each segment before the next one began, I found the show near unwatchable. It seems to have been put together for the dumbed-down People magazine brood which lacks any sort of attention span. Of course, the function of replaying and summarizing each segment does draw in those people who tune in part way through the show, but it is agonizing to anyone who comes in at the beginning. To say that the show was dragged out would be doing an injustice to the term.

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Raul & Glorybell Cordova / Tampa, Fl. — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:37:24 GMT

Once again Ms Palombo, my wife and I just saw the MSNBC piece and are amazed at the courage and determination you and your husband have demonstrated. You have opened many doors and gates to the many victims. Being hispanics we are constantly faced with similar cases within our communities as well as in our countries of origin. Let this be a lesson of verticality to ALL WOMEN AS WELL AS MEN...AND LAW ENFORCEMENT OFFICERS. Raul & Glorybell Cordova Tampa, Florida

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Judy Gist Omaha, Nebraska — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:37:28 GMT

Dateline and Donna Palombo should be congratulated! What an amazing story. There was great perseverance involved and much good will come from the tragedy. Good luck in your future endeavors helping victims.

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Jane Doe #234, Rome, GA — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:40:22 GMT

I was 17 when I was raped. I have to say that false accusations are not as rampant as most people think, in the aftermath of the Duke case. However, my rape cost us over $10,000,nearly cost my life, but almost cost the minimum of 3 psychologists, antidepressants, and doctor's checkups. Our insurance company wouldn't cover it, even though it was a medical emergency. I could not get my courage up until a few years after to contact the DA, who said it was a waste of time, and that I would also have to file a civil suit. If anything, the courts are aimed to help the rapist, and not the victim.

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Mary Dancer, Yukon Oklahoma — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:41:05 GMT

I was raped by my best friends father when I was 17. He had known me since I was 10 years old. To this day, no one that knows me knows this happened to me. I am now 53 years old. Stories like this make me realize that I should have told someone--He told me that night- "I waited for you to grow up"! I don't even know for sure why I'm sending this but it's time I let somone know what happened to me.

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Linda, Iowa — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:41:33 GMT

Just another message from Linda...I need courage and support. I have let this situation, left in the dark for some ten years...due to the kids, Because it is their father). Soon those who know what happened will be dead. Do I just let it go and let God deal with it or do I now try to protect those who may be victems? Forgive the spelling and quickness of this. I must run. I really need your insight as to how to proceed..... L.

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Magi and John Bish, West Warren Ma. — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:49:37 GMT

Dear Sara, We watched your show with fear and tears in our eyes. John Regan has always been of concern to us. Because of the the similarity the Saratoga victim shared with our daughter Molly Bish, who was abducted from Comins Pond, in Warren, Ma., on June 27th, 2000. She was 16 years old, a lifeguard,an athlete, blond, blue eyed, and very public victim. We know Mr. Regan's employment took him to nearby Sturbridge, Ma. Our community was having a great deal of construction work going on, at the time of our Molly's disappearance. Our high school was being renovated and a junior high school was being built. We know a local roofing company bought supplies from his company. Can you help us investigate this further? You can go to "Finding Molly Bish" to find out more about her abduction and murder. Only 26 of Molly's bones were found after three long years of waiting. It is now nearing seven years with no answer to who or why? We admire Donna's courage. Thank you, Sara. Magi and John Bish

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Dawn — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:58:57 GMT

I just watch the show about Donna. I am also a resident of Waterbury & know first hand how you can treated by the WPD...This is nothing new! I have a missing adult friend William Smolinski and his Family was treated shabbley and never collected any evidence etc...I am so glad Donna finally received some sort of justice..Thanks for exposing the WPD maybe things will change now!

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Jane Doe (Sarah), Lansing, Michigan — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 01:59:42 GMT

GREAT program Jane and Donna, VERY well done. It did stir up a bit of old stuff for me, and I tried calling the 800# on JaneDoeNoMore.org - a link to the National ...Victims..something. They as usual were not as helpful. Automatically transferred my call to a number near me, where someone said they could take a message. Hmmm. Bummer. This next part doesn't need to be posted..[I'm a survivor of severe abuse and rape from my childhood. Have been working on healing from it for the last 38 years, and still suffer serious PTSD. I'll always be a Jane Doe in terms of that, and have never had any possibility of justice. Luckily, most of the perpetrators are dead now, but not enough of them for me to be able to talk about it openly. I would love to find a way to tell my story as a Jane Doe.] I love the name of the new web site: JDNM Hurrah!! Hurrah!! Hurrah!

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Michael Haynes — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 02:30:30 GMT

I just watched the program and it stuck me about the Police Captain, O'Leary, that helped this Lady. In a time where the police are precieved that all are on the take, what a man of priciple, that he would do the right thing regardless of how he was treated by his own department. Man, if only every policeman across this country was made like this man is!

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Mary Robertson, Nokomis,Illinois — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 02:34:25 GMT

I agree with her. I was raped when i was 14 coming home from school i have a daughter from that rape they never caught the person.Then when i thought i had my life back on track i was married for 10 years then when it started to go down hill and i separated from him he came back and raped me in from of my children and he went to jail for it but the on;y thing is they gave him probation for 3 years. How does a woman that has been raped get over it they really don't u are always looking over there shoulders and wondering if there still watching them. I got help for me and my children but they always have them feelings. So i know what she is going through all you can do is take one day at a time and work through it.So good luck on this site.And god bless you and your family.

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Cathy Jory — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 02:36:30 GMT

Thank You!!!!!!!!!! GOD Bless

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Jan Drost, Middlebury, CT — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 02:49:36 GMT

Donna, You are an asset to our times. You, your husband and also Neal O'Leary have done such a service to so many on so many levels. Most of all, Waterbury Conn. owes you a debt of gratitude. God bless you all

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Denise, Madison, NE — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 02:52:03 GMT

How shocked I was to hear the words "Overlook" and "Waterbury" the other morning... I had to listen.... I didn't get to hear but two minutes, but it was enough! I didn't get to see the show tonight but I lived there for years and know all the people involved -- terrifying to see the faces of people I lived with in our nice neighborhood....Now I have to see the rest of the story..

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Linda, Auburn WA — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 02:57:13 GMT

I was raped by a boyfriend after we had broken up and I was involved with who is now my husband. I was advised by the police not to file charges because I had gone to his apartment. He was moving to another state and wanted to give me something of mine that he still had so he asked if I could stop by. Before we married I discussed this with my future husband who was sympathetic...at the time. However, now he doesn't miss a chance to throw it in my face that there was no way that Steve raped me or he would have been arrested. There are very few people that know about it and I now wish that I had never told anybody.

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Carolyn Smith, Buggalo, New York — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 03:34:28 GMT

Thanks for sharing your horrific ordeal Donna. I am truly sorry the Statue of Limitations had run out before Regan was found gulity of your case. He deserved to have that crime on his rap sheet too. I admire your courage and your husband was amazing on Dateline. He is so supportive and I am so proud of you for turning such a negativity in your life, you chose to use it so positively to help others. I trust your breast cancer was cured and it proves there is a God, because he gave you a miracle and I am sure you feel so blessed for that. I will pray for you, your husband and your children. Sincerely, Carolyn Smith

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Ricky Maveety, San Diego, CA — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 03:41:53 GMT

This lady is beyond brave and remarkable. I am so glad to hear that she was able to overcome the corruption and incompetance of the Waterbury Police Dept. I think the Moran brothers were just as evil as the rapist.

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Chelsey Reuther, Longview, TX — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 03:43:38 GMT

Wow!!!! What a wonderful, strong Christian family! I am amazed at what a powerful woman that Donna is. All I can say is "YOU GO GIRL!"

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Debbie Lucas, Memphis Tn — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 03:46:59 GMT

Unjustified women in a world ruled by men's rules.

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C. Layton, Twain Harte CA — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 03:48:21 GMT

Donna Palombo is an inspiration to victims of rape(regardless of age) everywhere! It is so important for women to stand up and speak out against these vicious crimes. As women, empowerment is essential to prevent these monsters from doing this to anyone else! KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK JANE DOE NO MORE!!!!!

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Kim Chrapliwy, Seattle, WA — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 04:12:28 GMT

I'm watching Sara James' Dateline segment -- an informative piece. My only complaint -- why did this take 2 hrs to present? The pertinent details could have fit into a standard 1 hr segment. The steady stream of "photo shoot posing" of Donna, and Donna & John [used for background during the repetative narrative] was distracting. The segment editor & producer really thought this required 2 hrs of programming time???

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Calvin,Vancouver,WA — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 04:14:45 GMT

God bless you Donna and all who have been there. Your a woman to look up to Donna. I raised 2 daughters alone.

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Diana, Brookings, OR — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 05:43:40 GMT

I watched this show and will watch it again. I saw four special, courageous people...Donna, her husband, the newspaperman, and the Cop who would not let the case die on a shelf somewhere. Each one played an important part in believing the truth needed to be revealed and a predator should be charged and taken off the streets. How Donna has maintained a life is beyond me, no one should suffer like that. Thank you Dateline for airing this, it was one of your best.

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Mike Packa — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 05:47:47 GMT

your story is inspiring. Mahalo. what i get tired of is the way most of these shows are put together. re showing video and comments over right after a commercial. it seems you always take two steps backwards every three minutes. i guess that is one way to stretch the content and get more commercials in. you will call say it is for the sake of continuity. give the viewer some credit for being able to remember what they have seen for more than 2 or three minutes. mahalo for the story

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Ann Carter, Cibolo, Texas — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 05:59:44 GMT

Greetings to all, and especially to Donna for her courage to be patient. I was raped at the tender age of 13, by my mother's boyfriend. Get this, my mother was so angry with me that within about a month she had me on a one way ticket to go to school in Jamaica, West Indies, AND KEPT THE MAN. She abandoned me there for 3 years until there was a coo and American's had to be brought back to the states. She never called, never wrote, only sent the money to board me there. AND--when I returned home(age 16) the man was still there. I blamed my entire family, and from that point on I knew I was an orphaned child. It did a lot of distruction throughout my entire life. I am just recovering and learning to cope with the entire thing. I am glad I left home and joined the military. Completed 22 years and now happily retired, and married to a man who truly loves me. It has taken me many years to learn to trust. I only thank God He kept me around to figure it all out and to forgive Bill Hoston in Los Angeles, California. Forgiven for the act, but will never forget the effect. Blessing to all of you.

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Elizabeth Venable, Carroll County, VA — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 06:48:41 GMT

Thanks so much for your courage and strength. I was raped 5 years ago by a evil and calculating monster, who used the court system to discredit me. For the last 5 years I have hated and lost total faith in people, my country and the entire judicial system. I live in a very small farming community in Virginia. My attacker lived in another county from where I lived. The day before he assaulted me, he went and drew false charges of trespassing, and assault charges,claiming I had slapped him in the face. The fact that I am 4'10" tall and he was 6'4 would be a major stretch for someone who is 18 inches shorter. I felt bad enough when he was not convicted, but one year later he decided to move 4 miles from my home. There is still not a day that goes by that I do not crawl out of my skin just to see him in passing. The night he raped me, a part of my heart is dead, like someone put a clamp over it.

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Rose Barton,Vermont — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 07:55:40 GMT

I am not familiar with any rape cases past or present,but I am convinced that pedofiles, male or female, should come under the same concern for support.In Vt.neighbors legally need to be notified if the pedofier comes into the areas that have children,and some only get a few months in jail.However I hardly read about any rapes as the courts make you out to be the predator & not the victim.Although more females are into Law Enforcemt these days and some really do have a heart.You just need to find the right lawyer & I hope you get an honest Judge.I will pray for you as wishing you good luck just wont help.

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Bella, Boston, MA — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 07:57:39 GMT

In 1994, at the age of 50, I was raped by two men; orally, and vaginaly. I relive the horror of that rape on a daily basis. That night I knew that I was dead....leaving that room was not a miracle I had any hope of. I have since then been in therapy off and on for years, to no avail. I don't, at this time, know how I would go about taking off the mask that I wear. It feels like I will go to my grave with the detailed, debilitating memory of that night. I commend Donna, and her husband, for removing her mask and exposing the unimaginable pain caused by her rape. I am happy for her that in exposing her pain, and her rapist, she has now the ability to heal.

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Denise Houston Texas — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 10:47:48 GMT

I watched the show last night. Brought back the times I was raped I once after another man tried to rape me call one of the men that raped me(I was only 15 when he did this to me) & asked him why he did that to me.He told me cause I was just to sexy looking & thats what he thought I wanted even with me begging him not to do this to me & crying. I will always rember it & I now know I didn't desire to be raped & it was if a woman says no IT'S No.Please don't do this to anyone. Not to say anyone is a ripest but think before you do anything if the woman says No. Maybe she really means NO.Back when I was raped it wasn't spoken of it was a taboo you were marked as you were trash & you asked for it. So I never told anyone.By the way it was someone I trusted & knew.

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Mina Ludgey, San Francisco bay area, Ca — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 11:30:15 GMT

Donna Palombo, was in a fragile mental state after her attach for years, but she rose from the ashes!!! Her strength, fighting will and the support of her husband and family are an inspiration to all women! I am proud of you donna!!!

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Jane Doe, Manzanita, Oregon — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 11:32:49 GMT

I am the victim of a date rape 3 months ago. I was taken from a public place, drugged, raped and left to die. When I came to conciousness 5 hours later, very close to death, I found my cell phone and called 911. The police officer who arrived didn't see the obvious signs of what happened to me (even though I had no pants or underwear on and was barely alive). He arrested me for DUI and I spent 12 hours in jail, where I was told to shower. After reporting the rape, as details unfolded the following week and I was being treated for an STD contracted from the rape, I was charged with false reporting by the police. I am currently fighting these untrue accusations. Meanwhile, I am stuck in Oregon, my home is Hawaii, because the courts won't let me leave unless I give them $500 and fly back for court dates and trial. Women's Crisis Center cannot help me because the DUI charge (although it's false and invalid) is a criminal charge and they don't get involved with criminal charges. The public defender I have will not make a claim against the police and I don't have money for an attorney. This man is still out there, free to drug and rape women while I fight in court to prove my innocence. I feel stuck in a nightmare. This show helped me not feel so isolated. I hope all law enforcement officers and hospital employees will educate themselves on date rape drugs so no other woman has to be treated as I have been. Thank you for airing this show.

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Holly Labo Taylor, Mich — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 12:59:39 GMT

Dear Donna and Husband John, You are both two of the most courageous people I"ve heard about! God bless you both for sticking together through all of your ordeal and bringing it to viewers so no other family should suffer as you have. Also the honest Police Chief who stood by you, may God bless him as well, he's to be commended for doing what was right, a rare thing these days. I wish you all the best. Holly Labo

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Dori-Anne in New York — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 13:00:53 GMT

I want to say as a woman who has been through this and is still struggling everyday I thank you for making me feel not so alone. I am sorry that you had to endure such a violent act but, buy you coming out and putting a face to this ugly crime you are helping many women face their own situations. Thank you and good luck to you.

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Barbara Duncan-Young Bronx NYC — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 13:20:49 GMT

There should be better laws in place to protect rape victims. Also rape victims should not be treated like they are on trial when in court to prove that they were raped. Perpertrators also need to be given longer sentences for these sexual henious crimes.

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callie, Aransas Pass, TX — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 13:40:34 GMT

I was raped the first time 50 years ago as a teenager and it set me up for years of abuse. It took me many years to realize that I wasn't to blame for the actions of an abusive person. As a senior citizen, I relish the fact that I live alone and have seriously loud alarms on every window and door in my home and nobody comes into my home without my permission. It took me so long to find such a small bit of peace and that it came at a truly high price. How many men have to pay this kind of price?? I am not a man-hater, but after watching the show last night I saw how all the men stuck together and protected each other. How does this happen and how long will it go on? Thanks for your show. . it's going to make a difference!

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Marta Lott, LaPorte, Indiana — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 14:31:25 GMT

I was so impressed with her convictions and her family support especially her husband. It normally doesn't go that well. Please let me know what I can do. I live in a small town in Northwest Indiana.

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david clohessy — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 15:28:20 GMT

We in the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests commend Donna for her courage and her compassion. Others who have suffered in shame, silence and self-blame will be inspired by Donna's bravery to come forward, report crimes, get help and protect others.

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Karen, Tampa, Florida — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 15:39:49 GMT

As a woman who sued my former boss, an Attorney in a small town in Ohio after finding outwhile confiding in another professional in town that he (my boss) had "the reputation" over the past 20 years previously, "but no one would stand up to him" and deciding too - and seeing the case through YEARS and all the way to the Ohio Supreme Court Disciplinary Counsel which "SUSPENDED HIM FROM PRACTICING LAW FOR A WHOPPIN' SIX (6) whole months" - WOW, right??? I felt some satisfaction for some of those women who came forward that had never said a single word until I did, that perhaps I helped them and I was glad I stood up for myself, however it was very disheartening to say the least that in a progressive society "RAPE" is still a hush, hush topic! Make no mistake about that.

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Lorraine Chernosky — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 15:50:45 GMT

Donna, you are an inspiration to me. "From Victim to Victory" is our motto where I work as a shelter counselor. You are an example of the fact that it is possible to rise above our circumstances. My hope and prayers is that your words encourage others to break the silence. God Bless you!

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John Doe, Milwaukee, WI — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 16:28:54 GMT

Somewhere near 50% of my female acquantances have been sexual assault victims of one type or another. Quite a large number of women. Of them, not a single one had a case go to court. The closest was one who was unable to pick her attacker out of a lineup due to trauma even though there was other evidence that made the detectives positive it was him (pre-DNA timeperiod.)

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proud mother of a son michigan — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 16:31:50 GMT

jane doe 992 i am sorry you were raped but i take offense to your implication that all son's are monster's my son is serving in iraq!

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Vita , Lakewood. Colo — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 16:33:15 GMT

As a victim myself at 12 years old I agree with everyones comment on here. It is true at the age 50 it still haunts me.It affect my whole life. I now work for a nonfit Rape Crisis center where I work with other victims. It has been a long road.

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Heidi, Bismarck, ND — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 16:37:45 GMT

I noticed a couple comments about false accusations and just wanted to comment on that. FIRST-false rape accusations are RARE! SECOND-the number of false rape reports is the same as any other crime w/ false reports-2%-7%. LASTLY-just because the charges in the Duke Lacrosse case were dismissed, like the Kobe Bryant case-does NOT mean they weren't true allegations.

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Janet Wehlitz — Tue, 01 May 2007 04:10:01 GMT

Wonderful Job, Donna! My father physically/verbally abused my sister & me as we grew up. About 5 yrs before he died, my sister & I had to get a woman convicted of felony theft ($42,000) even when he continued to tell us (his daughters) that the thief could NOT be lying. WE became the victims instead of him, WE were accused of lying instead of the thief. I applaud ANYONE who stands up for themselves in the face of great trial and then reaches out to help others. Thank You, Donna! My heart and Prayers are with you!

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Richard E. Smith, Seaside, Ca. — Tue, 01 May 2007 04:25:18 GMT

this the great, all victims should go public, names, faces and all. Rape shield laws should be outlawed. Only someone with somehtin to hide, needs such laws. This will not help eleminate and identify the serial accusers, but empower the real victims of rape and gain them supporters.

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Shelly, Canterville, SD — Tue, 01 May 2007 04:30:01 GMT

We have to overcome people like Heidi from Bismarch, ND who would have you believe women never lie and all men are rapist or will eventually rape. This is the mindset that has led to the mistrust of rape allegations in the first place. Both Kobe and the Duke boys are prime examples of Non-sense prosecutions.

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Destin Lalicker, Russll, Ks — Tue, 01 May 2007 04:41:53 GMT

I just "came out" as it were. I just started to face this. Sexual abuse is hard to deal with. One time rape, or life time of abuse. I think all "jane doe's" need to stand up. Fight back. The only thing we can do to not be the Vitim anymore is to take the power back. To do that you must face it.

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Peggy many places — Tue, 01 May 2007 06:38:18 GMT

Only WOMEN who were abused sexually, or one of their immediate family members were, should be Allowed to see or speak to us female victims about our assaults. Women who were NOT are every bit as CRUEL as the males are to us. Not to mention it usually was a Male who did it, so are they the ones we feel like telling our humiliating ordeal to ? And Must we re-tell "our story" Certainly NOT !! WE ARE AFFECTED FOREVER , Post Traumatic Stress Disorder will remain unless we have coping skills taught to us by those who have used them, skills we never learned before, but can not be normal within our own minds until we do . Not one of my reportings went well over the years, nor was anyone ever questioned, so i stopped reporting. Do you know why there are so many assaults like this ? Simply because they get away with it, they are free to continue abusing children and adults. I read ALL the comments here, before I wrote. More than 40 like me: just like me

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Les, brown, Orlando, Florida — Tue, 01 May 2007 07:11:21 GMT

As a victim of a false accuser I still haven't recovered. I feel for the woman who have gone through this ordeal. I was drug through the mud for months before it came out that I never touched her. After the truth came out I never got an apology. I am still looked upon as a predator to a woman I only shook hands with and hugged. I trust no one now. I wish one day all victims get help, and not hurt continually!

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Sam, Wyoming — Tue, 01 May 2007 08:12:40 GMT

Wow, I'm glad you were able to take off the mask of pain from your ordeal and have such a loving family. I was raped as a teenager by a man that dated a lady I babysat for, my parents were furious but it never got reported as my dad didn't want to shame me or the family. I have dealt with this for many years and it has been somewhat destructive as I have been married twice and divorced at least once. I have been to therapy and it helped but nothing will change the fact that it happened. I have tried to raise my boys to be better people, to treat women with respect and that when a woman says no it means in no uncertain terms "NO"

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Cat — Tue, 01 May 2007 10:46:41 GMT

I was raped my senior year by a boy in my class. I was also a victim of a bet between him and his best friend to see who could have sex with the "LDS Virgin" first. Apparently, I was their target that year. I wanted to press charges against him for a very long time, however my family and friends told me not to because his family was a very strong influence with our town's police department. I know how it feels to deal with the rumors, I had to put up with them myself for close to 5 years. I still have friends that say that I may be lying. I am married now, so I no longer care about the rumors anymore but that doesn't mean that the comments and whispers weren't as hurtful. I understand exactly what you went through. To be questioned about ever having been raped to begin with, and to be told that there is nothing you can really do about it. Even sitting in the hospital, I remember thinking to myself that I could never tell anyone what had happened because then I would look like the town whore and put on trial myself. I want to thank people like Donna Palomba and Sara James for actually reporting what REALLY happens to rape victims. Because of your reports and statements, I feel like I have come to some sort of closure with my own life. I'm not alone anymore. I'm not the only person dealing with this. Thank you for opening my eyes. Thank you for giving me the courage to tell my daughter and other loved ones about this when the time is right. I didn't think I could really before now. But, I know I can if other people have. You've helped me out! ~*~ As a side note, because I was raped...I went to college to become a lawyer to prosecute other rapists and murders I see. This has impacted my life in MANY ways. I can still remember everything that happened in vivid detail, and to hear it from other people makes me relive it again. It is nice to know I have comfort somewhere. ~*~

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DA Jim Murphy, Saratoga Springs, NY — Tue, 01 May 2007 11:15:52 GMT

Sara James did a wonderful job asking the hard questions all while being sensitive and supportive. Great story about survival, empowerment and hope. Donna is an inspiration to all victims of crime.

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John Taylor, Canada — Tue, 01 May 2007 11:26:32 GMT

Donna, it is about time someone stood up for women. Crime victims seem to be forgotten in a system where the Justice department and media focus on a perpetrator and ignore the victims of crime. Biblical & Qur'an rules on rape are an embarrassment and affront to morality, and modern secular law is often inadequate. Judges still consider how a woman was dressed (as if that matters) or her deportment (once again, no, they should not). The legal system puts women in a terrible ordeal in their quest for justice. So, I am happy to see a woman standing up for women. You GO girl!

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Man Doe, Atlanta, GA — Tue, 01 May 2007 12:46:54 GMT

Yes. I am glad you are out there to voice what have happened to you and it is a shamefull for those who committed the crime. But, it is even more shameful for those who falsely accused others which in term distroyed their life. Consequense must be done, those found to be falsely accused others must be name in public and be punish by the laws so that no more false claim can be make.

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Memphis Slim — Tue, 01 May 2007 20:43:40 GMT

How about if we STOP raising boy children to be aggressive, competitive, bullying, nasty, abusive, non-human rapists?? Rather than making more women Jane Does, let's make boys responsible for their inability to manage their anger and aggression and teach them the emotional maturity that women, as human beings, have. Or maybe that's just not possible.

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Amy, Richmond VA — Tue, 01 May 2007 23:24:13 GMT

I applaud her and her website, as a rape victim, I wish I had the strength that she had at the time of my assault. I hope her story and her website can do great things to shed light on this awful crime. Too often rapists go unpunished.

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Lucy — Wed, 02 May 2007 01:16:00 GMT

I think it should be the rape victim's choice to identify herself. There's no shame to not wanting to be identified as a rape victim or survivor. I don't think it's fair that a rapists would be able to come into my life, rape me, and then my name and picture are on the nightly news. It's not about shame, but just that the victim should have a choice.

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COLG, Arlington, VA — Wed, 02 May 2007 12:12:15 GMT

I am a victim of a physical assault by a man I was dating for a year (a fellow officer-not a gentleman). I found out after several suspicious incidents that there was a question as to his marital status. I tried to call his (ex)wife at which time he came after me trying to wrestle the phone and the number out of my hands. Of course, I found it wasn't an (ex)I did report the incident, had pictures taken, was sent from one office to another, no one sure how to handle a "physical assult" that did not involve "sexual assault". It has been a night mare. This is in the context of active military and with all the visibility of women in the military afraid to come forward one would thing we would have a system in place. I believe I did the right thing coming forward but I'm a senior officer with alot of medical knowledge and experience in treating patients. I don't know that I would advise a junior officer or enlisted female to come forward. I'm now fighting his allegations that we did not have a relationship, my injuries would caused by his defending himself, etc. The system does not tell you this, I found it out inadvertently, you don't have an opportunity to rebutt (at least at this point I haven't)the system that was suppose to help me move my things out of his home, provide support, guidance-never materialized. I've had to pursue any assistance I've received and right now I'm n ot sure who to turn next. So much for taking care of Soldiers. You don't have to deploy to Iraq or Afghanistan to end up with PTSD.

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Sherlee, Cleveland, Ohio — Wed, 02 May 2007 17:54:12 GMT

I taped Dateline the other night & nearly did not watch it...but I did and I am in awe of Donna, her integrity and more importantly, the love & support of her husband (what a great guy). Also, I wanted to hug the detective who never waivered on his belief to her tragic & very real rape. I think the detectives who harassed should have to publicly apologize to her.

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Lisa, Fisher Minnesota — Wed, 02 May 2007 18:37:53 GMT

I am proud of you, for starting "Jane Doe No More". I am also a victim of sexual assault, and it HURTS. It hurts most of all that we are supposed to stay quiet and make no waves, as though we somehow brought this on. I was a girl of 7 years old when the abuse began. I assure you, I did NOTHING to bring this on, could not have even conceived of the idea of "sex" and its implications. Until we drag these crimes out of the dark corners where they are being hidden, and expose them under glaring light, speak about them openly and without shame, ONLY THEN will these problems get better, and only then will we have a chance to stamp them out. So, Donna Palomba, KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!! Good for you!

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Roger Flemens 25 dusty lane new hope arkansas — Thu, 03 May 2007 10:30:02 GMT

As a 54 year old father,I can understand your anger. Our justice system has broken down to the point of a plea system because prosecutors,and lawyers would rather plea bargain than really work to prove a case anymore. There won or lost record means more to them than any victim unless there is political gain or a newspaper headline to be gained for them!I promised my daughter when she was a small child that if something like this ever happened to her,I would make sure whoever did it would not live to see our disgusting public officials bargain her life away like a piece of newspaper headline. Thankfully that never happened.I live in Pike County ,Arkansas,where there have been several unsolved murders,and everyone,including the prosecutors know what happened,but refuse to do anythig about it!It is disgusting,and these people are a disgrace to the justice system!God bless you and your family,and hopefully you will find peace someday.Try to keep your faith in God,and he will bring you through this.

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Jane Doe for now — Thu, 03 May 2007 18:07:54 GMT

I was raped when I was 14 years old. My daughter who resulted from this does not know this information. I do not know how to tell her about this, although I have always loved her and wanted her. I was called a liar when I was in the recovery room after she was born by the nurse who was on shift and caring for me. I am now a teacher and do not wish this information to get out. I wish the police had pursued my case more than they did. I have had to justify myself to the police, the nurse mentioned above, HRS when applying for Medicaid while I was finishing in high school and college, and any person who felt like making nasty remarks about my age when I have been out in public. Congratulations to this woman for having the courage to come forward, use her name, and continue to pursue her case even under all of the scrutiny and nastiness aimed her way. By the way, my daughter will be 14 years old this summer, is beautiful, is a good student, is outgoing, and an athlete. I am very proud of her accomplishments no matter how I got her!

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William Perry, hampstead, NH — Fri, 04 May 2007 18:51:13 GMT

I watched the Jane Doe Rape story. She is courageous for coming forward. I'd like to present the other side of the rape stories. When Men are accused of rape their name and photo is in the newspapers and he is convicted by the media. Her ID and photo are not reavealed to the public because she is considered a **victim**. But not him! The rape charge could be false and no conviction is made the newspapers almost never print a retraction on the front page. **He** remains convicted by the media no matter what the legal outcome of the case. The real victims here are often **men** falsly accused of rape. This is not a very popular side of the issue but we should all try to be more objective. You should do a story of the incredible trauma men must go through when they are falsly accused of rape. In saying this please understand that I don't mean in any way to denigrate the suffering of women who are raped. Thanks for allowing another point of view on this issue.

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Another Survivor — Sat, 05 May 2007 13:37:59 GMT

Why is it that we only believe women when there's a DNA hit? Most rape cases are not about DNA. It still feels like we blame the victim. Look at the University of Virginia "12-step" rapist that Dateline covered. All the bloggers were out for blood - the victim's, because she sought justice, just as this lady did. I don't understand why one women is demonized for speaking out and one is a hero.

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Another Survivor — Sat, 05 May 2007 13:40:24 GMT

For William - according to the FBI, only 5.5% of rape charges are false. That is a very low number. It's not as if there are millions of innocent men charged. On the contrary, there are millions of rapists walking free. There are men freed now regularly with the help of DNA technology and something called the Innocence Project. But don't for one moment think that false charges are the norm. Rape is so common and our culture simply accepts it and moves on, leaving a trail of broken, damaged souls.

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Gabe Arlington TX — Mon, 07 May 2007 15:36:51 GMT

Yes finally someone to stand up to their fears. I commend her in that.Had I not had the troubled child hood I had going from home to home, always feeling like there was no one who wanted to really hear me I left my secrets with me.Not even teling my closest sister who was in homes with me she just was old enough to stay home by herself. My babysitters were a wife,her husband, & 2boys about the same age as me & my foster brother.At age 5&6 time isn't a factor. I just remember moments where I would be in bed for a nap & the 'husband' would come lay with me & touch me everywhere& tell me how beautiful I was. I never thought the mom knew about it until one day we were all in the living room watching TV. The husband had a robe on & wanted me to 'come sit on his lap' I remember saying I didn't want to then the wife told me to go sit on his lap. I went & sat down. He then placed my hand in his robe. That felling will be with me for the rest of my life but it taught me to basically trust no one. At age 17 I reunited with my then foster parents. I asked is they remembered the names of the family but they couldn't. I gave up then but I believe I would have press charges or at least let them know I knew what they had done to me & I would never forget!

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Erik from ft. lauderdale — Wed, 09 May 2007 16:29:23 GMT

Donna you and your husband are both heros as well as the police cheif. Through your courage and persistence many victims of sexual crimes and rapes will be empowered and helped. You have really helped to begin a cycle of change which will continue. You three should really find solace in the fact that through your diligence and courage imagine the amount of pain and trauma you have been able to quell. keep up the good fight it is exactly what we need in these times. You are real heros believe it all three of you.

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Louis, Phoenix, Az. — Wed, 09 May 2007 17:32:32 GMT

When is it going to come to light that men can are victims of domestic violence and sexual assault as well?

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Kim Adams, Henryetta, Oklahoma — Wed, 09 May 2007 18:57:50 GMT

I wish my niece had the courage you do. We live in a small town where one boy sexually assulated her and two others agged it on. Thank god she jump from the car and ran to the nearest house, or no telling what might have happened to her. These were boys she was raised with from diapers, she trusted them like brothers, had no reason to fear them. They have been reported as doing this to four other girls in our hometown and nothing was done.(Small town politics). This was three years ago my niece is a freshman at Oklahoma University with a full scholership. The three boys one works in a gas station, one left town and the other flunked out his freshman year. Go figure, my niece to this day has many struggles. This has changed her completely. She does not date and stays close to home. She feels the system has failed her, as do I and her entire family and friends. I am just thankful that she had the strength and ability to not lay down and die. She started in school in biomedical engineering,(which she was the only freshman to ever recieve a scholership from the engineering department). She started helping out at summer camp by the advise of her physiatrist for abused children, She has since switched to child phycology. Soon there will be no trust left in our society.

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victim of misjustice, small town NC — Wed, 09 May 2007 23:04:52 GMT

I am a victim of rape. The rape happened in my apartment on Oct. 27, 2006 at knife point. The perp was a person that I considered an acquaintance. I called the police twice after he left and no one showed up to my residence. I then dressed myself and my kids and went to the local sheriff's dept. myself. I told the police what happened and they took my statements and took photos of my face (since my eye was severly bruised). I was then taken to the hospital for a rape kit. He was later arrested that very same day. He was charged with first degree rape, first degree larceny, and second degree kidnapping. I would also like to add that the local authorities never really took me seriously. They would make comments like "if you're found to be lying charges will be placed against you." At one point I was meeting with the police and the DA to discuss the case and somehow some of the evidence was "missing". It was never found that day and I don't know if they ever found it. This shocked and amazed me because I didnt understand why they were treating me in this manner. Coincidently, this is not the first time I had made a complaint to the authorities about this individual breaking into my home and terrorizing me. However, it is the first time an actual arrest was made. Two days ago I received a call from the local sheriff's department, and there was a lady on the other end stating that the defedant was being released due to the grand jury finding "no true bill" in a secretive grand jury hearing. I wasnt even aware that this hearing was even taking place. So I was very shocked and distraught after receiving this phone call. I have been on the internet and the telephone all day trying to see what can be done about this. The only solution I have heard is to get a restraining order against him. Now please explain to me someone, anyone....what the hell is a restraining order going to do to someone that has manipulated the system in such a way as to get away with rape??? I am no longer living in the same apartment...I live in the next town now. But if he wanted to find me it would not be difficult. The towns are very small and everyone knows everyone. Now if he mysteriously gets "murdered" I wonder if the grand jury would indict me.....probably so. Do you know of anything I can do?

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Camie S., Coeur d'Alene, ID — Thu, 10 May 2007 06:40:44 GMT

Actually, Shelly from Canterville, SD, it is people like you that need to be "overcome." The type of mind-set you have is exactly why so many rape victims choose not to come forward, and instead live with their fear and shame. I have worked with victims of sexual assault and rape since 1985 in both Washington and Idaho, and my experience (as well as statistics) show that the majority of victims do not lie.

Just because charges are dropped does not mean that the perpetrator is innocent. For example, Kobe was not proved to be "innocent," but after receiving death threats his victim was beaten down enough to finally give up. So the charges were dropped. It is very hard to prosecute a case if the victim will not cooperate. Rape cases are very difficult to prosecute anyway--even if the victim is involved.
I have worked with many victims who have simply not wanted to be re-victimized by the criminal justice system and chose not to cooperate after their initial report. Is it any wonder why victims would not want to be put through the trama of dealing with a criminal justice system that very often doesn't believe them?

Unfortunately, rape is a very misunderstood crime, and we have a culture that equates aggression with being a man. Many males are also raped and face an even greater stigma. Most males and females are raped by hetro-sexual men. That's not male-bashing--that's just a fact. It is a form of power and control--it is not about the sex. Right now our criminal justice system is mostly geared to the rights of the criminal--not the victims. Victims are now called "accusers," and most rapists continue to walk around freely. Free to victimize others--and Shelly, they always do.

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Iris Merson — Thu, 10 May 2007 14:31:49 GMT

I understand that errors have been made through the years and continue to occur at present in the judicial system,eg The Durham,NC rape case. However, I do feel it is necessary to expose those who commit a crime regardless of gender!

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Robin Harvey — Thu, 10 May 2007 16:44:34 GMT

Where are the men, the fathers, the brothers?
Why aren't they taking the rapists to task?
Why aren't they around to protect?
Why aren't they around to defend?
I, for one, am absolutely fed up with the pansy-assed male portion of culture and society today.
I am a father of one son and a step-father to two-beautiful step-daughters and one great step-son.
I have made it well known what I would do to anyone who crossed certain lines with respects to any of my children. My children know they are loved and protected by me.
It's my job as father, provider and protector of my family.
I consider myself a real man.
I wish more males would take up thier proper role.
If they did, then rapists and molesters would pray we never found them...

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Roberta Hill Pine Bluff AR — Sat, 12 May 2007 00:49:12 GMT

I was raised in Waterbury, and played in the Fulton Park area as a kid. I knew of the families that were talked about in the story. I cannot help thinking that the original investigation was hushed because the Regans were who they were. I wonder if the investigators who turned against Donna were acting on an order or just thinking they could gain favor by twisting this and letting it go cold. Donna must know that by staying the coarse she will not only overcome but soar above the evil that some humans do. Thank God for you.

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Jolene Brewer, Rocky Ford, CO — Wed, 16 May 2007 00:10:09 GMT

I was a incest (physical)/verbal abuse victim from age 3-4 till I ran away to get married at age 18. I had PTSS and still suffer from being different. My husband is not the most understanding of men, but let me take him to an "Incest Victim Panel Discussion" on our aniversary one year. I took group therapy which helped, and prayed for the ability to forgive and it has helped me get rid of the hate which was eating at me. For the most part, I was not there for my children, as the hate is all consuming. My rape was not once, twice, or even three times, but at least 4,000 times. I was usually beaten before and accused of every and any thing. From the time I was 8, GOD was my strength and ally. I never confronted my father untill my neice was born and I got so scared that she would be a victim. My husband and I then found out that he fondeled our 4 girls. He was a rapest and was always cheating on our mother. She knew about the other women, but not us girls, 2 sisters and a foster sister. He suffered a heart attack after I confronted him, but didn't die. But at least, no more women and children had to suffer. My one sister was in denial and accused me of all sorts of things. Just like the police in the documentary. What's new, family or strangers? No one likes to hear it. Even at church, I was put down for giving God the glory for healing me. They didn't want to hear it. I could email with a few women who want to have Biblical help.

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Mick, Naperville, IL — Thu, 17 May 2007 04:19:44 GMT

In addition to changing the mindset of authorities, we need to work on society's perceptions of those who report the terrors of rape. I was raped in my sophomore year in college. Until my attack, I was one of the most liked, bubbliest, happiest college students around. I was an academic and athletic standout. As horrific as my attack was, the victimization I suffered in the aftermath by the rumors, accusations, and utter resentment for having spoken out, were equally unbearable. I know what it's like to have people ostracize you...to have your friends whispering behind your back…to have people wondering if you really wanted to do it and got more than you bargained for…to be treated like you have a plague just because you told what happened. My roommate forced me to call the police and I was taken to the hospital for an examination. Though the kit had more than enough evidence, I dropped the charges after an unforgettable conversation with the lead investigator in my case. He basically asked me why guys would spend the energy to rape me when they can get "as much as they want without any real effort." He then asked me if my either of them had a large penis because that could help explain the tears to my vagina and anus. Imagine a 20-year old [kid] still reeling from the attack hearing that from the person in authority who was assigned to help her. I was dumbfounded and defeated with that one statement. I didn’t have the strength to fight because I was too tired—tired of crying, tired of being talked about, tired of the embarrassment, tired of worrying about running into them at the gym.

I ultimately transferred to another university and went through a few years of off and on counseling. That was 13 years ago. Today, I’m pretty much in control of my life, but still sleep with the television on because it disguises the creaks that are never heard until bedtime. The rose-colored glasses were torn off of me that night and the reality of the cruelty of perception poured in. Hopefully, we can help society understand the shame, humiliation, strength, and courage that all come with the reporting of rape. We need to encourage and support rape victims because, life is never the same for the person—especially the ones who report it. Then again, life is never the same anyway. Thanks and God Bless you Donna!

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Mr Dallas Haines, Perth, Western Australia, Australia — Sat, 19 May 2007 22:15:57 GMT

To Sara James, Dateline:Your story on Donna Polumba was beyond belief.What an amazing lady Donna is.I have so much admiration for her and the way she never gave up under such adverse circumstances.Well done Donna I wish you and your family all the best for the future.

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Sarah, US ARMY, — Wed, 23 May 2007 12:34:21 GMT

I'm in the Military. I have been for 5 years now. I was in Iraq twice. During the break between the two deployments, I was raped by someone that I thought was a friend at Fort Hood, TX. For so long I blamed it on myself. I didn't want to go forward because at the time, I was only 20 years old and I had been drinking. I only remember the initial contact by my rapists, but I'm sure that I said no, and soon after blacked out. I woke up with my pants around my ankles, and tears dried on my face. I thought that if I went forward I would have been the one to get in trouble for the underage drinking. So I kept it inside. Luckily I didn't end up pregnant, but two months later I was told that I had contracted Clamydia, and Ghonorrea. I was treated for both, but nothing could make me forget that day. I approched him about it, but of coarse he denied it. When I went to Iraq the second time, while I was stationed in Baghdad I was continuously harrased by numerous male soldiers who wanted to "get a piece." After continuous rejections, they finally stopped persisting. When I returned in December of 2005, I thought I had life back on track. Until May 2006, when a higher ranking soldier attempted to rape me again. Luckily this time though, someone had seen him come into my barracks room, and saw me trying to fight him off. I had just slapped him in the face when the door was thrown open. Someone was sure looking out for me that day. Women should not have to go through this alone. Let our voices all be heard.

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John Doe — Mon, 28 May 2007 15:09:48 GMT

I am sorry for those women who went through the hell of the rape experience, what should be done in all country's is sentence the rapist to death or cut off a part of his body as a reminder

But lets stop for a moment, and look at Date rape...
I have been in situations with a date where when the signals of lets have sex where approved of by both.
And once things begin in the physical & Passion side of the act.
5 minutes after penitration she says lets stop, and men do stop.
Then for some strange reason calls it date rape...
There have been cases where a man has beeb convicted of Date Rape and sent off to jail, cases where there where no physical contact with the woman who claimed the rape.
I could not even think of raping someone or even causing physcal harm unless it was in self defense,
I have been an accused victem of date rape from a Jealous one time date.
This one time date did not turn out well and we did not click...but she constantly stocked me, She would show up when I was on another date.
So when I stood up to her and warned her to leave me alone.
She made threats of our previous date that we had, and made claims that it was a date rape.
I was shocked because nothing was true of what she said, we did not even touch each other, the date ended early because I did not feel comfortable with her aggressive behaviour.
I went through hell, DNA test, Lie dector test, my Long time girl friend broke up with me over this.
Friends looked down on me rather than supporting me.
When she finally confessed it was all a lie, I was left with I am the Victem of date rape.
Guys this is a warning if your dating....make sure you know your date for atleast a couple of weeks or more. Introduce them after you feel comfortable with them to your friends and maybe your family.
Dont think of going to first base until your sure this is what both of you are consenting with.
Victem of no crime

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Barbara Burns, CT — Sat, 09 Jun 2007 16:41:47 GMT

I'm a rape survivor. I was not believed so the police just swept it under the carpet,yet this guy raped me twice. He also raped friends who were afraid of him so wouldn't report it. Recently my home town news paper wanted to do a story on it but decided because it was 35 years ago that no one would really be interested, but they did mention if I ever decided to open the case back up, file a civil suit, etc... to let them know. Does anyone know if a civil suit against the police is possible after so many years? I know that New York State has a 5 years statue of limitations on rape.
Although I've moved on, the injustice of it all still haunts me.

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sad girl — Thu, 14 Jun 2007 18:14:02 GMT

From 1980-1985 I was beaten and forced to have sex with my boyfriend. He hurt me in every way one could imagine. I didn't leave him because he threatend to kill me and my family and I believed him. When I was about 19 or 20 I realized that he wasn't going to kill me so I took him to court and got an order of protection which by the way did nothing. I know that from the time he was 16 until maybe 20 he was having sex with his sisters daughter who was 11yrs old when it started. Now that I have 3 girls of my own I have nightmares about him every night. Is there anything that can be done after 20yrs.

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Brad Merrill-St Petersburg <fl — Tue, 26 Jun 2007 20:49:50 GMT

brokenangel,
sorry it took so long for my reply. Well I still have a "shoulder"!
brad4346@yahoo.com

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henry olise — Mon, 02 Jul 2007 21:30:58 GMT

Hello Thanks to this site my wife went through the same issue of being rape ..but i pray to God in healing her ..henry from nigeria ...henry_olise2000@yahoo.com

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Dawn Trapp, Waupun, Wisconsin — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 07:04:28 GMT

You all want to fight against rape? Sign the petition at dogthebountyhunter.com to help out dog, tim, and LeLand. They are facing time in Mexico for capturing a rapist. If the Mexican government wants rapists free to run around, how safe can we feel? Sign the petition, they help keep our children safe. Sign if for the kids.

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Leigh Oats — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 20:44:38 GMT

The unedited and thoroughly chaotic transcription headed "Jane Doe No More" and starting at http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/18405518 ("updated 10:40 a.m. ET May 1, 2007") has a stab at the culprit's surname variously as Regan, Tegan and Reagan. Oh, well---it's not as if such details are important. At least two moronic (have I spelt that adjective right?) ossifers in Waterbury's police farce built their reputations on disdain for details. I congratulate Neil O'Leary (a good cop whom a cynic might regard as belonging more in fiction than in real life) for going a long way to make amends.